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Month: October 2016

It starts with people

It starts with people

het-begint-met-de-mensWithout people there will be no organizations, sport clubs and schools. Without people these institutions don’t have employees, no customers, no sporters and no scholars. It doesn’t start with the invented organisation, it always starts first with people.

An organization often begins small, when not so many formal rules are needed. As soon as an organization grows, the need arises for clear agreements. Rules and formats, protocols, procedures and models are made to streamline and make easier operations and co-operation. And often they make reality more understandable. All these structures are conceived. Of course it is important to have protocols and procedures because they are the vehicle of the appointments made, but they are not the truth. Models of certain aspects in organizations, like strategy, technology, structure, staff, can be easy to clarify the world, but they are not the reality. In my in the mean time long working life I could not escape the impression that the focus is often on following and good use of the rules, whereby is forgotten that finally it is always about people.

Sometimes I think that we as humans are also conceived; conceived by ourselves because we adapt to the cultures of our family, our school, our neighbourhood of city, our country. Cohabitations also exist of structures, written and unwritten rules. We learn to adapt to what others want from us, to what we ourselves think we want in order to fit in the structure, in the box.

I don’t want to be seen as an object that fits in a box or a model in the head of someone else and I don’t want to see the other as an object by putting him or her in a box or model in my head. I want to be seen as a person and to meet the other as a person. That means I want and have to look further to that real person in front of me, with all his or her innate talents, capacities, special characteristics, strenghts and weaknesses. And let me not forget to look at the real person I am. That means that I have and dare to look; that I take the effort to meet and get to know the other without judgements and with respect.

Do we still know who we are, deep inside? In my opinion we often limit our possibilities by putting ourself and the other in a box and by basing our actions and expectations thereon. What a waste of the potential we have in us! Imagine a society in which everyone wants and is able to use his or her talents; in which it is normal to address the other on his or her talents. I think we will work together better, that we will achieve wonderful results together! The result will be more than the sum of its parts.

Being curious about who is really there: here in myself, there in you. Who is the other, there in front of me, there in front of you? Do you see an object or a person?

Who do you see?


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Personal leadership

Personal leadership

universumExhausting and confusing, I found the idea that I am not seen if I don’t shout loudly: ‘here I am’ or ‘in this I am the best’. And maybe that is true. I can’t expect that, if I hide under a stone because I think this is scary or I’m just not in the mood, others will see me.

But what do I actually show to myself? How can I make my life really meaningful if I don’t see myself? Discovering and acknowledging who I really am and what I want to bring into the world is not that easy. And not letting myself being guided by what others think or expect is far from easy. For me this was and is a discovery journey in which taking my personal leadership is the key.

I want to take leadership over what I do and over what I want to bring into the world. I want to walk on my own path. It is not about what others do or think, it is about what I do. Discovering and acknowledging myself starts with being honest with myself.

For me personal leadership is: having the courage to discover who I am and for which I stand for, the courage to discover my own path and to follow it and take control myself over everything I do in life. My personal leadership is about discovering and acknowledging the uniqueness in me. I am unique, just as everyone else. No one benefits from me putting my light under the bushel. I want to shine and radiate, with all my talents! And that is not arrogant. That is accepting who I am, with all my talents, and nice and less nice characteristics. That is also facing what life brought me in beautiful and less beautiful experiences and what I learned from that. And that is accepting the person I became because of all that and never will be ‘finished’. There always will be lots to discover and develop in myself and in the relationshiop between myself and the world.

My personal leadership is about standing in life as honest and open as possible, open relationships with myself and with others. It is about the respectful treatment of my ‘being human’ and the ‘being human’ of others; respectful for all the doubts and perspecives that will be there and for our reaction to that. My personal leadership is about being conscious of everything that can be in the way of a respectful relationship with myself and with others. I will do my utmost to be as honest and open as possible about that. And I know I will fail and start again.

I keep with myself what is mine. I leave with the you what belongs to you. In the space in between we will meet, without judgements and with respect for the uniquenes of both.

What does your personal leadership look like?


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